PAST HURT ,PAST MISTRUST,ASSUSATIONS AND PAST PAIN...

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them.YOu can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you devolp self-esteem ,spiritual discernment and life,you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation,control,jealousy,neediness and selfishness are not  the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Seeking status, lust, weath and security are the wrong reasons to be in realtionship.

WHAT HELP KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG?????

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, get away time without business or children, dinner for two,shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note , a nice message on their voicemail, a nice e-mail,etc.....

DO YOU TWO SHARE COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS????

Grow this important.Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure.

Allow your mate to have outside interest.You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging  and assurancesof commitment.

Don't try to control one another.Learn each others family situation.Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don't put pressure on each other for materialgoods.Remember, for richer or for poorer.If these qualitiesare missing,the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain replace the passion.